Your Perfect Home: Beyond the House and Into the Heart of Your Community

When thinking about buying a home, what’s the first thing you think about? Is it the house, the place or the people? It was probably the house itself and that’s ok, that’s normal. When presented with multiple options, the option closest to you physically and energetically is usually the simplest and safest thing to explore, so that’s where we automatically go. But let’s zoom out a tiny bit and think about where we live. Is this in the desert or the mountains? Beach or lake front, wine country? Urban or rural?

Once we’ve answered that question, we zoom the lens in deeper. Is this a community with pristine lawns, a community pool and an HOA? Is it completely rural and private with land and a fence all the way around with a gate? Is it a high rise in the middle of all the hustle and bustle?

 Let’s add another layer and go even deeper. Is there a block party every year and tons of community events to network and make friends with other members? Is there a church of your denomination nearby? Is there a quality, fair trade, organic coffee shop in town? How is their library? Masonic, Moose, Elk, etc. lodge? What type of lifestyle do you want to have?

I have found that so many people don’t consider their neighbors and other community members. It’s not that they don’t necessarily care about these things, but sometimes it’s more “what you can afford” and “the commute to work” that dominate our thoughts about buying a home and there’s really so much more to consider. I find it’s really important to dig down and discover what you really want out of your community and what your place looks like inside said community.

Here’s an easy and powerful meditation technique to practice if you are considering a move, looking to call your community to you, or just want to leave your community a bit better than you found it.

Take a moment to center yourself, put both feet on the floor if you can, or just get as comfortable as possible in your current position. Breathe in slowly through your nose (if possible) while imagining fresh energy or light filling your heart. Hold for a moment and then exhale slowly through your mouth (about twice as slow as you inhaled) and imagine old, stale, icky energy coming out of your whole body and mouth like steam being released. Do this as many times as feels right to you and clear your mind for a moment. Now, think of the absolute most perfect day, whatever brings your heart the most joy. Then I’d like you to start envisioning your perfect community. What does it look like? Are there many parks? Lots of nature to explore? Is it full of skyscrapers? Can you walk everywhere, or do you have to drive? How does everyone treat each other? What kind of businesses are there? What kind of clubs are there? Venues? Go all out, let your fantasy run wild and true. Do your best to not allow your limiting beliefs and ego distort or shoot down any detail of this that brings you joy. This is 100% unbridled fantasy, allow it (sometimes I imagine it as Muppets or a cartoon just for fun-the main goal of this exercise is the feeling)! Imagine all of it down to whatever depth and detail you can go. Turn your focus on to the feeling this vision gives you and flow within it for as long as you allow yourself. Take a deep breath and let it go. Then go about your business (*pro tip-this would be more effective performed before bed). 

Do this as often and whenever you have a few moments (*pro tip-it typically takes 4 to 6 weeks to reprogram your subconscious, so if you want to commit to this process, I suggest doing this for at least 4 weeks). One last tip-If you struggle with the visualization process, write it down instead (in the present tense, like you already live there)!

And remember, don’t take this too seriously, the goal here is fun and inner happiness! If you have any questions or would like to discuss the different communities around, and which could be the best fit for you, I am always happy to help <3